Let me educate all of you, readers, for the umpteenth time with my concept about gossiping. Such art, gossiping, is widely implemented, out of spite, out of boredom or even out of good will. It’s one of the very things we do uncontrollably and the only thing that lacks a rehab in life. As much as we hate to be the gossipee, we all want to have a piece of dirt in being the gossiper. My views about gossiping? It’s healthy; it makes the world go round.
Now, when people start to gossip, there is a hidden intention somewhere. Is it to make me sound more interesting? Is it to make things better between others? Is it because I think that the others should know? Is it to win more of his/her friendship fuel? Is it to make him/her sad? Is it to make the victim of the gossip sad? And as natural as human beings do, we strive harder to hear the bad news about someone than the good news. Try this! Walk into a room and tell everyone about how you managed to play Beethoven on your violin, in parallel with the news about your boss screwing with his secretary. By the end of day, you would be lucky if 30% of those around you could even recall about you owning a violin. “Oh, you play violin? I never knew.. oh wait yeah that’s right. You did mention it this morning”. However, by the end of the day, you’ll have most of those around you continuing the thread of that one piece of bad news you mentioned about your boss. So, I am not surprised at how people would be interested to learn bad shit about me? In fact, it does boost people’s interest and this attention whore gets a win win!
If people ever ask if there is such a thing called ‘healthy gossiping’, there IS! Well, to me, there is. We’re only human beings to be NOT perfect. We’re only human to change the way we see/feel towards or about others. So, at times, we tend to gossip about the way we see or feel about a person. “I don’t like the way she talks” “I think she’s lame” “She’s getting on my nerves”. Sounds negative, doesn’t it? If anyone loves the idea of opinions or being heard, it would be great if they could put themselves in both shoes. The gossiper and the gossipee. Naturally, the gossipee will be quite pissed off. What would I do in this situation?
Well, being a victim, I would be quite self conscious. I would listen and then there would be a throbbing membrane at the back of my brain which would keep beating with the whole “Oh god, someone is thinking this way about you.” And this would be followed by “Is this my personality or just something I could become”. “Can I get rid of it and what would’ve made the gossiper talk about me”. Calmly, this could be solved. I’ve been a victim of a gossip for more than a couple of times. What do I do when I find out? I just don’t really talk much with the gossiper if I had made the decision that I do have this personality and it’s a waste of time to make him/her appreciate my presence.
So, I truly think that you shouldn’t waste ANY TIME on gossips about you, which you might not have agreed with.
1. It wastes time
2. It doesn’t justify anything between the gossiper and you.
3. You’ll become more insecure than ever.
I admit I gossip. But it’s all opinionated. I would NEVER EVER say things about anyone which would not implied that it’s true. I would sentence it carefully in way to remind the listener that it is my opinion towards the victim. If you ever are a victim of this, please make sure that you don’t waste your time with this since I’m not gonna stop and I am not gonna feel guilty about saying stuffs about you, in terms of my opinions. If you’re gonna be so stressed and bothered by it, it just shows how insecure about yourself you are. You can gossip all you want about me (if it’s your opinion). I don’t live for anyone and I make sure I make people happy everyday by being genuinely nice to them.
On the other hand, we have gossips where the speaker tells a story. Be it true or not, if it’s about others, and especially negative about others that does NOT concern you, you should just mind your own fucking business. Mature or decent people of sorts are NOT interested in what happens between others. Be it shaky relationship, something gone wrong or just pride-hurting failure of someone, we are simply NOT interested. What if that person was you? Would you have liked it if someone spread that news about you? And what made you qualified enough to say what you said about others?
“OH my god, I can’t believe her husband’s trying to cheat on the other chick without getting any approval from the other chick”
Well, one day, you will suffer if your husband ever gives you HIV from a whore he’s knocked up with a twin in a park nearby.
So, people, after reading this, I would like all of you to fucking grow up.
1. People have opinions and they never come in good tones ALL THE TIME about you. Being gossiped as a third person followed by an adjective is COMMON!
2. If any gossip does NOT have you in it, this requires you to shut the fuck up and mind your own business. You might wanna ONLY say it if you’re a person who’s never done what they’ve done or will do what they’ve done. I mean, come on, even Buddha had some flaws. I’m so not buying the fact that you lack flaws!!
This blog has been pretty much triggered by some immature people around me, who are so infused in trying to make themselves better by being so affected by gossiping. Be it gossipee or gossiper, do it with class! And yes fuck you very much!!!
Now, when people start to gossip, there is a hidden intention somewhere. Is it to make me sound more interesting? Is it to make things better between others? Is it because I think that the others should know? Is it to win more of his/her friendship fuel? Is it to make him/her sad? Is it to make the victim of the gossip sad? And as natural as human beings do, we strive harder to hear the bad news about someone than the good news. Try this! Walk into a room and tell everyone about how you managed to play Beethoven on your violin, in parallel with the news about your boss screwing with his secretary. By the end of day, you would be lucky if 30% of those around you could even recall about you owning a violin. “Oh, you play violin? I never knew.. oh wait yeah that’s right. You did mention it this morning”. However, by the end of the day, you’ll have most of those around you continuing the thread of that one piece of bad news you mentioned about your boss. So, I am not surprised at how people would be interested to learn bad shit about me? In fact, it does boost people’s interest and this attention whore gets a win win!
If people ever ask if there is such a thing called ‘healthy gossiping’, there IS! Well, to me, there is. We’re only human beings to be NOT perfect. We’re only human to change the way we see/feel towards or about others. So, at times, we tend to gossip about the way we see or feel about a person. “I don’t like the way she talks” “I think she’s lame” “She’s getting on my nerves”. Sounds negative, doesn’t it? If anyone loves the idea of opinions or being heard, it would be great if they could put themselves in both shoes. The gossiper and the gossipee. Naturally, the gossipee will be quite pissed off. What would I do in this situation?
Well, being a victim, I would be quite self conscious. I would listen and then there would be a throbbing membrane at the back of my brain which would keep beating with the whole “Oh god, someone is thinking this way about you.” And this would be followed by “Is this my personality or just something I could become”. “Can I get rid of it and what would’ve made the gossiper talk about me”. Calmly, this could be solved. I’ve been a victim of a gossip for more than a couple of times. What do I do when I find out? I just don’t really talk much with the gossiper if I had made the decision that I do have this personality and it’s a waste of time to make him/her appreciate my presence.
So, I truly think that you shouldn’t waste ANY TIME on gossips about you, which you might not have agreed with.
1. It wastes time
2. It doesn’t justify anything between the gossiper and you.
3. You’ll become more insecure than ever.
I admit I gossip. But it’s all opinionated. I would NEVER EVER say things about anyone which would not implied that it’s true. I would sentence it carefully in way to remind the listener that it is my opinion towards the victim. If you ever are a victim of this, please make sure that you don’t waste your time with this since I’m not gonna stop and I am not gonna feel guilty about saying stuffs about you, in terms of my opinions. If you’re gonna be so stressed and bothered by it, it just shows how insecure about yourself you are. You can gossip all you want about me (if it’s your opinion). I don’t live for anyone and I make sure I make people happy everyday by being genuinely nice to them.
On the other hand, we have gossips where the speaker tells a story. Be it true or not, if it’s about others, and especially negative about others that does NOT concern you, you should just mind your own fucking business. Mature or decent people of sorts are NOT interested in what happens between others. Be it shaky relationship, something gone wrong or just pride-hurting failure of someone, we are simply NOT interested. What if that person was you? Would you have liked it if someone spread that news about you? And what made you qualified enough to say what you said about others?
“OH my god, I can’t believe her husband’s trying to cheat on the other chick without getting any approval from the other chick”
Well, one day, you will suffer if your husband ever gives you HIV from a whore he’s knocked up with a twin in a park nearby.
So, people, after reading this, I would like all of you to fucking grow up.
1. People have opinions and they never come in good tones ALL THE TIME about you. Being gossiped as a third person followed by an adjective is COMMON!
2. If any gossip does NOT have you in it, this requires you to shut the fuck up and mind your own business. You might wanna ONLY say it if you’re a person who’s never done what they’ve done or will do what they’ve done. I mean, come on, even Buddha had some flaws. I’m so not buying the fact that you lack flaws!!
This blog has been pretty much triggered by some immature people around me, who are so infused in trying to make themselves better by being so affected by gossiping. Be it gossipee or gossiper, do it with class! And yes fuck you very much!!!
Listening to: David Archuleta - Touch my hand
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