Continuing from yesterday's talk of the game of love contributed partially by my exboss, today's topic is contributed by my other friend, who's also like a big sister to me. Let's call her Bumblebee. So, she's been seeing this guy, P, and I'm one of the only few people she's told.
Sex is there but the whole uncertainty is there and I guess you could call this the 'chasing' period. Cos chasing consists of any doable things until you reach the final 'official title giving' era. Now, Bumblebee and I were talking and I noticed how calm she was about this whole thing though she would melt once in a while everytime she gets a message from him. But I guess after talking to her for a while, I learnt yet another thing, or shall I say secret, of the game of love.
I was pretty pissed off when Red called me a friend after we held hands and such and that had caused like a whole week of bad blog entries, which left me all tired and such. Yes, it's good I got rid of him but I guess I should not have been affected by what he did cos in all honesty, despite the fact that I don't really have any respect for him anymore, I think he did the right thing.
Why?
Well, in part one of this deep 'thinking out loud' blog entry, I have mentioned how we should not take into account of the era of the chase. It's not worth the trouble going through when all you do is just chasing and giving out impressions to each other. So, this does call for an unsure era as well.
What I'd normally do when I'm chasing or is being chased by someone is get all excited and tell all my friends. When things don't work, let alone the rejection effect, but it feels a bit weird to get sympathy from my friends. I know it's all in good means but seriously, that's the last thing I would like to get. It's even worse when they see you so upset after a denial of something that hasn't even started.
So, I guess the right thing to do here is to NOT tell ALL your friends during the chase. This would not only do you good but this would also stop your chaser/chasee from freaking out. I remember Kieran getting a bit shifty when I told him that I told my friends about him and when I took him to my trivia, he felt a bit uneasy. So, in order to avoid any confusions or anything that would affect this period where only TWO people matters, try not to tell your friends stuff. Same thing goes for Red. I told Steve and KP and Steve started getting all protective over me and telling me things that kinda DID affect my judgements on Red.
It's a game started... why announce it until you've achieved something out of it.
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