Things We Do For Love

Ok, it seems so weird but am I jinxing myself by watching too much chick flick rom com? For four consecutive days in a row, I've seen 27 dresses, lovewrecked, st trinnians(well that wasn't actually a proper chick flick) and liscence to wed. Two of them are about marriage, one's about some girl school thing and the latter's about finding true love between a rock star and a best friend you've known in ages.

Something's got me thinking though. I kinda know why some of my friends never made it through relationships. Since I am a proud homo, I'm gonna empathize more on gay relationships. Mind you, I am not going through EVERY gay guys in the world but to those who hasn't made it, here's the deal.

Tick Tock Tick Tock
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You never wait for anything. You just assume the next guy who bats his eyelash and could talk about Judy Garland with you for an hour without making fun at drag queens or limping his hand a true hero god. Lines like "OMG WE ARE SO MEANT TO BE" or "He is so like me". Does that sound familiar, boys? The deal here is.. DON'T RUSH IN. At the same time, do not think that idling means rejection. If you like someone meet up with him constantly and get to know him. Not rushing in does NOT necessarily mean to stop giving him attention. If you like him, get to know him. Get to know each other. and DON'T EVER SAY "can I get to know you?". That's just tres lame. Of course you can... without making it obvious.

History
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Fair enough, we gay boys lack history. I mean, one in 89 gay boys would have actually met through school and gone through a rough patch of 'getting out of the closet' era, which involves exploring each other. Some succeeds, becoming the ideal dream match between two people of the same gender from the same school. Some fails, leading to either bitter 'you' or a better 'you'. So, it's ok if you guys don't have a history. And because of this, you should EVEN CHERISH more time with your guy that you're with. Getting to know him, spending time with him and all of that.. think of how much time you've spent with him. If ever you get any temptations to ever fuck another guy/man or just bored of your partner, think of how you'll have to start again like 'so what movies are you into?' or things like 'dang, he can't even finish my sentence'. It's either that or just see yourself as a failure in life for not even being able to know what you want or have hurt someone who you've bullshitted that you've fallen for to your fag hags in the past when you and he first met. Trust me, guys.. it's worth the try. Work things out. If you're horny and he doesn't do much for you, USE YOUR HAND FOR FUCK SAKE.

Can-Do's
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I'm proud to say that this is one of the three things that I've listed in this entry that I practise. Yes I preach like Oprah wanna-be but I rarely practise and that's the whole idea of having a blog anyway. So that I could read this whenever I feel like a dumbass being run over by the same type of truck called 'mistake' with different number plates on it. The 'can-do' theory states to NEVER go for anyone just cos they're good for you. Make sure you're into them as well. Well, unless you're fucked and ugly and lack sense of humor. Me, being optimistic, believes that everyone is beautiful and everyone should find themselves a someone THEY WANT as opposed to someone THEY NEED. So, after a break up, NEVER settle down for some beautiful people who are nice to you (cos they obviously like you) cos you're gonna hurt them bad one day when you find out that you don't really like them. Ask yourself this, would you wanna be the dumpee in this case? What goes around comes around.

Now, the greatest challenge is yet to come. Will I follow what I've said? Things lure me and I"m easy to get spun around by some assholes at any points. and my type? I like a man who I have to chase but in the process, I start to hate chasing. That's me. I'm weird :(

Speaking of which, I just had a chat with GayBFF. He seems to be upset about something he told me. I'm glad I could be there for him to listen to what he had to say. But at the same time, I truly think what he's going through is a good sign. I wish him the best.

Music: Jason Mraz - Coyotes